爱情是人类永恒的主题。爱情对于正处于青春妙龄、感情丰富的大学生来说更是极具魅力的。据调查，在现今校园中有过爱情经历的或正在谈恋爱的大学生有60%左右。大学生恋爱是大学生生理和心理发展到一定阶段的正常现象。但是大学生的恋爱中也存在很多问题。目前我国很多高校对大学生谈恋爱既不提倡，也不制止，这种回避态度显然是不可取的。我们应该用一种科学的、公正的、客观的态度去分析这一现象，弄清楚目前大学生恋爱中存在的问题及导致问题出现的原因，并采取积极的对策。本文在对200名在校大学生进行问卷调查的基础上首先分析了大学生恋爱中存在的深层次矛盾及又此引发的各种问题，主要包括：心理上的成熟与生理上不成熟的矛盾，以及由此导致的以下问题：恋爱心理复杂并且不能正确对待恋爱中出现的挫折。自我满足感强与道德责任感弱的矛盾，并由此导致的以下问题：非婚姻取向突出，不能正确处理恋爱与学业及人际交往的冲突。恋爱中“情”与“利”的矛盾，以及由此导致的以下问题：恋爱消费问题突出，功利型恋爱观。其次，本文揭示了导致问题出现的几大原因，就大学生自身来讲，主要体现在：没有形成正确的人生观和价值观及由此导致的不成熟的恋爱观，婚恋知识及性知识的缺乏。就学校方面来讲，主要体现在：对大学生恋爱观教育重要性认识不足，恋爱心理咨询及性知识教育不到位，不良校园文化的影响，另外社会上消极颓废的婚恋价值观也对大学生恋爱产生了不良影响。最后，本文立足于学校教育的角度，提出了一些实效性的对策：加强大学生恋爱观教育，重视大学生健康恋爱心理的培育，塑造积极健康的校园文化，引导大学生形成文明健康的恋爱行为。

Love is the main topic of human beings forever. As far as the college students concerned, the number of students that falling in love has become very large. According to the research, there have been more than half college students fallen in love. However, the college educators have not pay enough attentions toward the problem. It is high time for us to concern about this kind of phenomena and find out effective methods to solve it. This article includes three essential parts: Firstly, it points out the problems which lie in the love of the college students: The conflicts between their ripe bodies and unripe minds, the conflicts between their desire and their devotions, and the conflicts between their benefit and their feeling. Secondly, this article put forwards several views on the reasons of the problems: The first one is the college students’ poor understanding of loving, the second one is the weak education system on students loving, and the last one is the negative effections of the society on the college students. The last past of this article are several methods to solve these problems: For one thing, let the students learn the correct theories about love, for another, the college educators should construct a harmony environment for the students, last but not least, they should also direct the students form a kind of healthy and civil behaviors.