随着社会开放程度的提高，多元化趋势明显，同性恋群体如冰山一角，渐渐浮出水面，出现在大众的视野中。与此同时，在社会性别规范与异性婚姻的强势话语下，进入一段异性婚姻成了大部分人的人生选择。加之同性婚姻不合法的尴尬处境，同性亲密关系无法获得社会的认可。同时，现有关于同性恋群体的研究主要针对该群体中的男性，女性则处于较为边缘的位置。

基于此，本文将研究对象聚焦于女同性恋群体（拉拉），探讨其在社会性别规范和异性婚姻为主流的背景之下，面临父母的“催婚”，她们将做出怎样的婚姻选择与实践，在这些选择的背后，包含她们怎样的出发点以及在此过程中，她们是如何实现身份认同，构建自我意识，并满足自身亲密关系发展的需求。

本文采用质性研究中深入访谈的方法，通过在微博、the L、小红书等社交媒体平台发布招募信息征集访谈对象，并通过滚雪球的抽样方式拓宽访谈对象的渠道来源。

通过对访谈资料的分析可知，父母会在“适婚年龄”催促女同性恋们进入一段异性婚姻。面对父母催婚，基于女性以及性少数群体的双重身份，她们面临着家庭和社会两方面的困境与挑战，其中父母对待同性恋群体的消极态度以及父母的面子成为影响女同性恋在家庭内公开出柜的重要影响因素；社会层面中视同性恋为异类，工作环境中遭遇的困境都进一步深化父母催婚所产生的压力。

女同性恋们借助就业机会，教育机会促使自己从家庭领域走向了学校、劳动力市场，在此基础上，女同性恋们在面对父母催婚时，基于自身经济实力的提升，自我意识的觉醒，采取了积极的措施，以应对父母施加的压力。通过研究发现，首先，本研究的研究对象不再将形式婚姻作为缓解父母施加结婚压力的主要应对策略；再者，面对父母催婚，女同性恋们在“为自己而活”与“向父母妥协”之间综合考量，采取了更加倾向于“向父母妥协”的接受异性婚姻与异性相亲，徘徊于二者之间的相伴式同居，以及另一个极端，“为自己而活”的同性婚姻与不婚主义三方面的具体措施。

As time goes on, the trend of the development of the society presents the diversification, the society's openness, gay groups increased exposure, gay groups gradually emerged as the tip of the iceberg, appeared in public view.Combined with gay marriage illegal, same-sex relationships don't have access to social recognition.At the same time, according to the literature, most of the current study of gay community focused primarily on the male sexual minorities, and less attention to the women.

Based on this, this article will study focused on the lesbian community (lesbian),To explore its social gender norms and heterosexual marriage for the mainstream discourse system, facing parents "urge marriage", they will choose what kind of marriage and the practice,Behind these choices, including how they start point and in the process, they are how to realize the identity, build self-awareness, and meet the need of their relationship.

In-depth interviews in this article will mainly adopts qualitative research methods, through the weibo, the L and other social media platform release recruitment information collecting interview object, and widen the channel of the interview objects by means of snowball sampling.

Through the analysis of the interview data,Parents will be based on "marriage is the end", "female attached to men", partly due to the stigma of "leftover women", in "the marriageable age urged lesbians into a heterosexual marriage.Facing parents urge marriage, based on their own women and sexual minorities double identity, they are faced with the plight of both the family and society in the challenge.

Lesbians in the face of parents urge marriage, active coping measures were taken, and with the coming of the era of individualized, lesbians with jobs and education opportunities to realize the transfer from the private sector to the public domain;On this basis, the influence to raise their families, to deconstruct gender norms, promote the awakening of self, and thus do not refuse to dating, living together, into the marriage, not for marriage of specific measures to deal with parents urge marriage and build their own same-sex relationships.

At the same time, more domestic research in the form of marriage doesn't seem to be in their thoughts.Based on this, to promote the public understanding and the understanding of new type of relationship, realize the diversification of social development seems more important.