亲密关系是大学生热议的话题。亲密关系的质量与心理健康紧密相关。 亲密关系的满意度是衡量关系质量的重要指标。而在亲密关系中，双方的情 绪调节对维持关系具有重要意义。自我怜悯作为一种积极的人格特质，有利 于个体以友善的态度对待自己，更好地适应生活，也可以对个体在亲密关系 中的体验产生正面影响。同时，自我怜悯对个体的情绪调节能力也存在积极 作用。人际情绪调节是目前国内外备受关注的研究领域，因此，研究拟从情 侣双方在情绪调节时的二元互动视角入手，探讨人际情绪调节策略的有效性 在双方的自我怜悯水平与亲密关系满意度之间可能的作用机制。 研究采用问卷调查法，使用线上问卷收集平台收集 106 对大学生情侣作 为被试，采用主客体互倚中介模型(APIMeM)进行主客体效应分析及中介作 用分析。研究主要结果如下： （1）个体的自我怜悯水平可正向预测自身的亲密关系满意度； （2）在消极情绪调节中，无论情绪调节发起者是男生或是女生，个体 的自我怜悯水平均可通过影响自身感受到的情绪调节有效性进而影响自身的 亲密关系满意度； （3）在积极情绪调节中，无论情绪调节发起者是男生或是女生，个体 的自我怜悯水平均可通过影响自身感受到的情绪调节有效性进而影响自身的 亲密关系满意度。此外，在客体效应方面，个体感受到的情绪调节有效性可 正向预测伴侣的关系满意度。 综上，研究使用主客体互倚模型探讨了大学生情侣的自我怜悯水平与亲 密关系满意度之间的联系及其影响机制，为自我怜悯在大学生亲密关系的干 预中的实际应用探索了新的方向。

Intimate relationships is a hot topic among college students, and the quality of relationships has a significant impact on individuals' physical and mental health. Relationship satisfaction is an important indicator of relationship quality. Additionally, emotional regulation plays a crucial role in maintaining a healthy relationship. Self-compassion, as a positive personality trait, helps individuals treat themselves with kindness, adapt better to life, and has a positive impact on relationship satisfaction. Moreover, Self-compassion also has a positive impact on individual's emotion regulation ability. In the field of emotion regulation, interpersonal emotional regulation is a research direction that has attracted significant attention recently. Therefore, This study aims to take a binary interaction perspective on emotion regulation between couples, distinguishing individuals as emotion regulators and emotion experiencers based on the roles they play in the emotion regulation process. Subsequently, the study explores the potential mechanisms of how the effectiveness of interpersonal emotional regulation strategies may impact the relationship between self-compassion and relationship satisfaction of both partners. The study employed a online questionnaire method and collected data from 106 pairs of college student couples through an online survey platform. The study conducted analyses on both actor and partner effects using the Actor-Partner Interdependence Mediation Model (APIMeM). The results are as follows: (1) Indivituals’personal self-compassion level has a siginificant impact on their own relationship satisfaction but not their partners; (2) When engaging in negative emotion regulation,indivituals’ self-compassion levels indirectly perdict their relationship satisfaction through its impact on the perceived effectiveness of themselves regardless of gender; (3) When regulating positive emotions, in terms of actor effects, we find the same results as negative emotion regulation.Specifically,as for the partner effects,we find that indivituals’ perceived effectiveness of emotion regulation has a positive impact on their partners relationship satisfacation.