在亲密关系领域，大学生的心理困扰不可忽视，尤其是与情感有关的情绪困扰、感情问题等尤为明显。而依恋损伤更是让伴侣纽带关系受到情感冲击，这种依恋损伤是直接影响伴侣亲密关系的因素。而自我表露对于大学生亲密关系的发展、保持心理健康具有重要作用。

本文将探索曾受到依恋损伤的个体，在之前和之后的亲密关系中是如何决定自身的自我表露的，以及不同性别的决定的不同。本研究试图解释个人决定是否表露的过程，以及推断情境或交互的后续变化如何导致个体正在进行的表露过程中的改变。本研究采用半结构化访谈，将以在校大学生为研究对象，通过半结构访谈法，访谈16位，自己或恋爱对象有过依恋损伤或正在遭受依恋损伤的大学生，运用类属分析法和情境分析法对访谈材料进行分析，结论如下：

第一，自我表露是向别人展示自身和自我需求的一种方式。自我表露的决策是指在进行自我表露的个体，决定进行自我表露的过程，包括情境、阻碍或促进自我表露的因素。

第二，亲密关系中影响自我表露过程的情境。在亲密关系中，在什么情境下会触发了自我表露，男性女性给出的答案有所不同。根据访谈，同样的话题从男性视角出发，获得的答案更加客观，在情感上更具有距离感，而女性的视角里大多都符合社会对女性的性别刻板印象：感性。

第三，阻碍自我表露的因素。阻碍自我表露的因素，是指导致自我表露并未如期进行的原因。根据访谈，阻碍女性自我表露的因素，并非是对自我表露这一行为的排斥，而是由于其他的因素。相反，阻碍男性自我表露的因素，更多是对自我表露这一行为意义的怀疑和犹豫。

第四，促进自我表露的因素。即使有阻碍因素的存在，在自我表露经验中，女性与男性相比仍处于偏高频率自我表露的群体，那促进其自我表露的因素将起着非常重要的作用。通过访谈，促进女性进行自我表露的因素大多是以亲密关系的稳定发展为出发点，而促进男性进行自我表露的因素更多是享受自我表露过程带来的正面影响。

第五，自我表露的过程是指个体完整地从准备表露到自我表露结束的全过程，包括遇到需要进行自我表露的情境、决定是否进行自我表露、决定自我表露的内容、自我表露的结果、自我表露的反馈、对之后自我表露的影响这六个环节。根据访谈内容分析得出，女性的自我表露过程分为完整的自我表露和中断的自我表露，其中完整的自我表露又包括压力下的自我表露与无压力的自我表露两种，男性的自我表露过程分为被动性的自我表露与主动性的自我表露两种。

第六，自我表露对亲密关系的影响可以从两方面分析，一是自我表露对个体自身带来的影响，二是自我表露对个体与恋人之间关系的影响。虽可从两方面分析，但自我表露对个人的影响也会在亲密关系中体现。访谈发现，由于经历过依恋损伤，被访者的自我表露的影响更多是体现在自身上，从而间接使亲密关系产生改变。

In the field of research on intimate relationships, college students’ distress cannot be ignored. Attachment injury increases the possibility that the relationship between partners is harmed. This attachment injury may also produce negative communication between partners. Self-disclosure plays an important role in the development of college students' intimate relationship and in the maintenance of their mental health.

The present thesis explores how individuals injured by attachment decide their self-disclosure in intimate relationships. It addresses gender differences in this issue. It attempts to explain an individual’s decision on whether to disclose or not. It also infers how subsequent changes in situations and interactions may lead to changes in the individual’s ongoing disclosure process. It adopts the method of semi-structured interview. Sixteen college students are interviewed. Either they or their dating partner has been or is suffering from attachment injury. The interview materials are analyzed with generic analysis method and situational analysis method. The conclusions are as follows:

First, self-disclosure is a way to let others know you and your needs. The decision of self-disclosure refers to the process in which an individual, who is making self-disclosure, decides to make self-disclosure, including the situations for it, the obstacles to it, and the factors that may promote it.

Second, the situations for self-disclosure in intimate relationships are analyzed. Different factors may trigger a man’s, compared to a woman’s, self-disclosure. When a question is asked to a man, the answers may produce a feeling of alienation. But the answers from a woman may be consistent with the stereotypes of women in a society：sensibility.

Third, the obstacles of self-disclosure are analyzed. These obstacles refer to the reasons why self-disclosure is not carried out as scheduled. For women, it does not mean that they do not accept self-disclosure when they do not do so. It is often due to other factors. For men, however, they do not self-disclose because they have doubts about the behavioral significance of it, and they hesitate about it.

Fourth, the factors that may promote self-disclosure are analyzed. Even though there are obstacles, women self-disclose more frequently than men. The factors that may promote their self-disclosure play a very important role. The major promoting factor for them is for the sake of stable development of the intimate relationships. For men, the major promoting factor is enjoying the positive impact produced by the self-disclosure process.

Fifth, the process of self-disclosure refers to the whole process from the preparation for it to the end of it. It includes six aspects: the situation in which self-disclosure is needed, the decision to self-disclose, the contents of it, the results of it, the feedback of it, and the influence on it. According to the analysis of the interview content, women's self-disclosure process can be divided into complete self-disclosure and interrupted self-disclosure, in which complete self-disclosure includes self-disclosure under pressure and self-disclosure without pressure, while men's self-disclosure process can be divided into passive self-disclosure and active self-disclosure.

Sixth, the influence of self-disclosure on intimate relationship can be analyzed from two aspects, one is the influence of self-disclosure on individuals themselves, and the other is the influence of self-disclosure on the relationship between individuals and lovers. Although it can be analyzed from two aspects, the influence of self-disclosure on individuals will also be reflected in intimate relationships. The interview found that due to the attachment injury, the influence of the interviewee's self-disclosure is more reflected in themselves, which indirectly changes the intimate relationship.